Growing up, time with my dad was invaluable. It didn’t matter what he was doing, I wanted to be with him. He was a tile setter by trade and graciously, although reluctantly, allowed me to tag along. I was not a great helper.
Unfocused, singing, daydreamer here 🙋🏼♀️🙈
But there is one task he always had me by his side for and that was changing the oil in his van. He bought this van when I was 4 and still has it to this day (it has nearly a half a million miles on it!!!) Unlike me, he’s very particular and consistent about everything he does, and changing the oil was no exception. Even though I likely slowed him down, my little hand could fit up the tiny hole and screw off the plug to the oil, so I got to help. I don’t have the type of personality that cared what he was doing, so I never asked. I just registered it as, “Time spent, I am loved.”
Fast-forward to owning my first car; a 1984 Honda Civic, two-door, red hatchback. It was old when I got it in 1996, so it needed “special attention” 😬 Regardless, I drove the living hell out of that car. Independence is a top value of mine and I was on the go as much as possible.
Fast-forward another year and I was broken down on the side of the road, not having a clue why my car just quit.
I called my brother and he rescued me. He is mechanically inclined like our dad; so it didn’t take him long to ask me, “When was the last time you changed the oil?” To which I looked at him dumbfounded and asked, “You have to change the oil?”
This was the moment in my life that I learned knowledge doesn’t equal power or insight and personal experience is the most impactful teacher.
We can know and not understand, hear and not listen, accomplish and not progress.
Here’s to living with consciousness and intention every. single. day.
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